Prime Boy Without Instructions: Surviving the Learning Curve of Parenting a Child with ADHDAuthor Penny Williams – Bilb-weil.de

There are lots of books about ADHD by people with letters behind their names They can tell you a lot about clinical trials and symptoms and methods Sometimes they also tell you about all the negative things that you really didn't want to know.This is an entirely different book This is from a mom's point of view about what it's like to mother and parent a child with ADHD If you are just starting down this path, it might be a good heads up about what to prepare for and watch out for If you have been dealing with ADHD for a while you are knod your head in agreement and understanding as you read about Penny's experience In telling her tale, Penny provides comfort in sharing that none of us really knows what we are doing in facing ADHD There are no 100% right answers for all kids And it doesn't just affect the child; it affects the whole family It's a process with a steep learning curve and some bumps along the way But armed with a lot of love, you make the best decisions you can and reevaluate along the way.The only criticism I have about Boy Without Instructions is that names have been edited to protect the innocent (and occasionally the guilty) I don't mind that in theory, but every time she calls her husband Mr T, I get the image of a guy with a Mohawk and heavy gold chains! But she is right to protect their privacy in telling the story that is as much theirs as hers Reading Boy Without Instructions is like sitting down to coffee with a friend after you just found out her family has lived through what you are now experiencing Sit back and listen, and know that you will find your way through ADHD comes with a lot of challenges, but many gifts, too. Thought provoking and great to hear the prospective of a parent and family going through it day in, day out! An honest and real opinion which any parent of an ADHD child can relate to! This was a fantastic book that showed the ups and downs that come with parenting a child with ADHD It was funny and heartbreaking all at the same time It showed me that there are other people and parents struggling with similar issues that I am now struggling with. This book!!! This is exactly what I needed My 8 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD combined type in November 2019 In a way, I saw it coming I’m a special Ed teacher, so I’m familiar with ADHD It still knocked me off kilter though Teaching ADHD and parenting ADHD are totally different!!! This book provided so much hope I know there will be ups and downs as I learnabout how to help my daughter manage the symptoms of her ADHD, but I know we will figure it out to some extent Thank you for sharing your personal experiences through this book It was truly inspiring!! Bookstores are filled with titles on ADHD from professionals and experts, but books from a momma’s perspective are few and far between Yet, hearing other parents’ experiences raising a child with similar challenges is often therapeutic, reassuring, and even liberating When her son was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of six, Williams found that some of the most helpful information came not from books on ADHD, the disorder, but actually from parents with similar experiences And so this book was crafted to offer these special parents of what they need — validation and understanding from someone who has been where they areWilliams shares her unfiltered emotions during the progression of learning to parent a child with ADHD in the roller coaster ride that is Boy Without Instructions This unapologetic, initially griefstricken momma transforms from obsessedwithADHD controlfreak and helicopter mom to optimistic and mostly confident parent of a child who happens to have ADHD This candid compilation of beentheredonethat wisdom will validate your feelings and prove that you, Warrior Parent, are not alone Wow If you are looking for a frankly honest account of one momma's struggle of raising a child with AD/HD, this is the book for you In fact, I highly recommed it for just about anyone who deals with AD/HD from pediatricians to therapistsyou'll get a firsthand account of what us parentsmothers especiallygo through on a day to day basis Night, too Because you know, there are times we just can't sleep for thinking about our precious punkins with a special need And yes, AD/HD definitely qualifies BOY WITHPOUT INSTRUCTIONS is wellwritten, in fact at times I wasn't sure if I was reading a novel, memoir, selfhelp, or parenting bookit certainly encompasses all genresand for that, it's compulsively readable You'll hear all about Penny's struggles with getting a diagnosis, navigating an IEP, school woes, living on a moutain surrounded by bears (no kidding), boiling snow for water when power is lost, and struggles with helicopter parenting This is momma uncensored You'll laugh, you're not in recognition, you might even shed a tear or two Stay tuned to www.speakingofapraxia for an author interview of Penny in early October. Sooo1st offthis book made me cry A lot Very A lot.This is not a how to book on parenting a child with ADHD; if that's what you're looking for, circle back to this after you've figured some things out.This bookis the author sharing her story, her journey, her challengesand is relatable Heartbreakingly relatable She shares thoughts I've thought, feelings I've had, scenarios I can relate to and I'm happy she has.This book served as a much needed reminder that I'm not alone That others are trying to figure some similar things out, that the challenges they face are just a new version of normal.I recommend but, be prepared to have heart strings pulled. Another mustread for any person who knows someone with ADHD, personally and/or professionally A first person account, it is easy to read and gives excellent insight into the parental and family struggle. This review is critical both because the author literally asked for it at the end of her book and because books covering such intimate topics as developmental disorders in our children should be closely scrutinized So, I will start and end on a positive note The courage required to voluntarily bare all for the world to judge our personal life is almost superhuman While memoirs are a specific genre of literature they are generally withheld till the end of one’s life for a reason William’s blowbyblow account of daily activities is so honest that if you are like me you may find yourself audibly gasping, or averting your eyes at the thought that a person would actually write about events which most of us rush to get through when they occur in daily life and then spend as little time as possible reflecting on later However, ‘raw’ is not a term I would use to describe it As I reached the final third of the book I began to realize that most of the verbal interactions with her son, affectionately given the name Ricochet since it described his energy level so well, were too polished, almost scripted The book began to take on a sense of no longer two humans bumping through the world lovingly holding hands trying to find their way and turned into a realization that William’s actions words, while human, were always perfectly suited given the circumstances I was disappointed to see it take this turn because of the value she obviously assigned to the accuracy of happenings Her Christmas nearly being ruined is a perfect example of willingness to share her life with the reader even when it doesn’t reflect favorably on her I couldn’t understand why I was now getting the impression that her parenting skills suddenly reached final form and were above reproach The last third of the book also took on a less structured nature which didn’t fit well At times it felt like a blog with informalities such as apologizing to her husband, or shortcutting the writing process with profanity instead of searching for a better suited literary device Sorry, but this is a published book, not 0’s and 1’s stored and easily erased in digital format for consumption by those looking for a distraction Books are mulled over, highlighted, dogeared, analyzed, cited, annotated, inscribed they intrinsically holdvalue and shouldn’t be rushed If I had gotten the sense that these situations and a few others were intentional instead of convenient I probably wouldn’t mind.This book took a turn for me when William's discussed a hypothetical holiday letter that she imagined writing to her family which consisted of many tribulations throughout the year I had a visceral reaction to her writing that her son quit baseball because he wasn't getting enough playing time I was livid She planted the seed in her son's mind he had no issue riding the pine and being a member of the team William's herself had an issue with sitting in the rain at night to watch him (not) play and suggested that he quit The selection of words is so important Teaching a child to 'quit' is wrong on so many levels with regards to sports Teaching a child to 'move on' to aenjoyable preferred activity at the end of the season is quite different This led me to see the entire book from a different perspective newly framed to include a child not benefitting from the life skills learned through persisting in activities but being driven by conveniences of the adults in his life.Next major objection is the brevity of time with which Williams considered medication as appropriate for her child She concedes that she thought nothing was wrong with Ricochet until he entered Kindergarten (by the way, preschool is fairly common, why no mention of it?) and even then only in the classroom after he began to get complaints from his teacher His behavior at home was typical of any rambunctious boy, it is a little weird for an educated individual not to question best health practices Looking back, I would have expected her maybe not someone else but her, to shareabout her research into treating ADHD and discuss what she thought of them Apparently she is wellread on the subject Even something as general as “given acceptable medication options historically provided for ‘fixing’ homosexuality less than 50 years ago by the same clinical psychology DSM manual that provided an ADHD diagnosis for my son I critically evaluated whether this was right for Ricochet” However, she just accepted medication as the logical next step without discussing with the reader why which seems like it was worth including It led me later in the book to thinking about the physiological toll these were taking on poor Ricochet as he tried to cope with regulating his emotions and maintaining focus while the chemical reactions occurring in his body were inconsistent and out of his control I couldn’t help but think a skills based approach would have beenbeneficial Which leads me to the positive ending: William’s discussion of services such as IEP, 504, Occupational Therapy, psychiatry, and others are experientially discussed and are a real strength to the book She advocates for a broad range of support services and lets the reader know what is available The book is easy to read and organized chronologically which is also nice.I would recommend this to any parent as summer reading material as I think it is a useful discussion to have however, I might not recommend it for a specific parent of a child with ADHD because every diagnosis is different and Ricochet’s case could raise your hopes or lead to foreboding anticipation. I really, really enjoyed this book Penny Williams chronicles her life with a child with ADHD but I truly felt like she could have been writing my story As a mother of a child diagnosed with ADHD just two short years ago, I could totally relate to Penny’s stories Lately,than anything, I just want to talk to people who are going through the same things because it helps to not feel so alone This book definitely made me feel not alone I would highly recommend it to ANYONE who knows someone with ADHD.