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Millions of children and adults tell themselves or are told by others to stop procrastinating, start concentrating, sit still, finish what they started, and get organized But what appears to be a matter of self discipline is for many a neurological problem Now two doctors reveal the impact precise diagnosis and treatment can have great book for helping identify a family personal history of ADD i have struggled my whole life with some ADD issues, though i never knew why until i read this book it really opened my eyes and for the first time i felt like i had some real answers i really like the lists of tips for dealing with a child adult partner with ADD very helpful highly recommend. Although I have always joked with my students that I must be borderline ADD, I would never have diagnosed myself as actually suffering from the disorder I even fostered a child with ADHD, diagnosed and medicated, such that I was aware of the problem, but never thought that I really had the condition Even when I started reading Driven to Distraction, I was reading it to becomefamiliar with what someone else was going through actually, what several people I know and care about were going Although I have always joked with my students that I must be borderline ADD, I would never have diagnosed myself as actually suffering from the disorder I even fostered a child with ADHD, diagnosed and medicated, such that I was aware of the problem, but never thought that I really had the condition Even when I started reading Driven to Distraction, I was reading it to becomefamiliar with what someone else was going through actually, what several people I know and care about were going through than reading it for myself One of those people had said, I think you have ADD yourself and gave me this book But I still thought I was reading for someone else.Yet, as I read the case studies, I began to think this psychiatrist had been reading my mail I was brought to tears on several occasions as the patients expressed feelings with which I had lived my entire life and accused themselves of the same psychological crimes that I had accused myself of whenever I stopped long enough to evaluate my life They perceived themselves as lazy, undisciplined, irresponsible, and undependable all charges leveled against myself by myself, all charges that occasionally lay me mentally low into nasty, inexplicable depression Even at those low points, I blamed myself I accused myself of self indulgence and diagnosed myself as lacking in spiritual faith.And then, I read this list Diagnostic Criteria for Adult ADD1 sense of underachievement2 difficulty getting organized3 chronic procrastination4 too many projects trouble with follow through p 73 5 saying what one thinks without self censorship 6 frequent search for high stimulation 7 intolerance of boredom8 easy distractibility, focus problems9 often creative, intelligent 10 trouble with PROCESS established procedures p 74 11 impatient, low tolerance for frustration p 75 12 impulsive, both verbally and actively13 worries needlessly14 insecure15 mood swings16 restlessness p 75 17 tendency toward addictive behavior p 76 18 chronic self esteem problems19 inaccurate self observation20 family history of ADD I had to answer Yes to 19 of the 20.A few pages later, he described a successful, but unhappy professional as having a study littered with piles Had he been peeking at my study and my basement work space So many adults with ADD have piles, little mess piles, big mess piles, piles everywhere They are like a by product of the brain s work p 80 Yet a few pages later was a description of a minister who described a cloud a feeling that her personal world was about to collapse Sort of like a cartoon character who s run out over the cliff and his legs are still pumping, but he s only standing on air and he s about to fall a long, long way down I ascribe my success to the grace of God, but I m still left with this feeling that it could all be taken away p 83 How often have I been there I always feel like I ve wasted opportunities, blown chances, irresponsibly cadged together inadequate work just before deadlines, andI ve always blamed myself And now, I realize that there is a reason In fact, not only is there a reason, but there is much that can be done about it The best part of this book is that it isn t trying to pre diagnose people and pre dispose them toward medication Most of the book is about what can be done without medication That s a relief to me Approaching 61, I realize that it s probably too late for me to dothan live with the problem However, it was also nice to realize that some of what I ve done that works for me is what this psychiatrist who also suffers from the disorder recommends.1 Support group2 Rid self of negativity largely self imposed p 98 3 Use lists, reminders, files, rituals as structure4 Use O.H.I.O only handle it once for paperwork 5 Make deadlines6 Do what you re good at, instead of spending all of your time trying to get good at what you re bad at7 Understand mood changes and how to manage8 EXPECT depression after success9 Learn to advocate for yourself10 Learn to joke with yourself and others about your symptoms p 99 NOTE This is the short list He offers 50 tips on pp 245 253 from which I ve chosen other methods to work with my problem I also appreciate his quick mnemonic of tips for coaches therapists working with ADD sufferers Tips for the Coach H Help Ask the person you are coaching, what kind of help do you need O Obligations Ask specifically what obligations are upcoming and what the person is doing to prepare for them If you don t ask, the individual may forget to tell you P Plans Ask about ongoing plans It is very helpful to remind people with ADD of their goals.E Encouragement The most fun part of the coach s job is to be affirmative in this battle against chaos and negativity p 227 He also notes that the coach therapist may have to act as a distraction censor p 230.This book is informative, helpful, and, for me, timely I look forward to reading his updated version, Deliverance from Distraction and implementing some of these ideas Still reading, but so far, it s been fantastic for me to recognize why my parents had such a difficult time with me It s SO therapeutic to read accounts of how ADD ADHD has affected others lives those who have it and those around them and it s quite refreshing to discover the positive aspects of ADD, as well as what things help an ADD child adult to thrive I ve been given so many conflicting labels helpful, defiant, cheerful, irritable, brilliant, stupid, patient, reactive, enthusiastic, Still reading, but so far, it s been fantastic for me to recognize why my parents had such a difficult time with me It s SO therapeutic to read accounts of how ADD ADHD has affected others lives those who have it and those around them and it s quite refreshing to discover the positive aspects of ADD, as well as what things help an ADD child adult to thrive I ve been given so many conflicting labels helpful, defiant, cheerful, irritable, brilliant, stupid, patient, reactive, enthusiastic, unmotivated, etc Talk about confusing Well, kids typically come to believe those who speak the loudest and the most So, naturally, through my parents and teachers and brothers frustrated reactions to me, I came to believe mostly the negative things Lucky for me, my husband has got to be among the top 100 most patient, understanding men in the world I knew going into our marriage that our relationship probably wouldn t survive if that had not been the case Can you see how this book would be so beneficial to me I highly recommend it to anyone with ADD or anyone who interacts frequently with someone who has ADD However, be sure to follow it up by reading the next book written by Edward Hallowell Delivered from Distraction, which offers a hopeful view of how to thrive with ADD And, after that, read The ADHD Effects on Marriage essential to keeping your closest relationship not only intact but flourishing One of the most important books about ADHD Very helpful and informative for parents with children with ADHD Totally recommend it