Explores treatment and counselling options, and uses reallife case histories to examine the special challenges women with ADD and ADHD Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder face, such as the shame of not fulfilling societal expectations This book includes a chapter on friendship for women with ADHD It's rare that I read selfhelp books to begin with It's evenunusual when a book reads like my autobiography.Sari Solden describes not only the typical idea about ADD, but differentiates between ADD and ADHD She also expands on the concept, describing common traits that occur when a woman has only sort of dealt with having ADD Solden explains that many women struggle due to familial expectations the expectation that women must keep their homes and lives (plus those of family members) organized.I do not currently own this book, but I intend to add it to my library as soon as I can. This book has changed my life If you are a woman, or know a woman who has been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, read this book! I think it is especially important for women like me I had a lifetime of dealing with issues, beating myself up, feeling frustrated This is not uncommon, because most women as young girls don't exibit obvious symptoms I made good grades didn't cause trouble I was the daydreamer in class, unless it was a class I liked I was a pleaser, who worked extra hard We learn how to compensate hide our struggles I was 37 when I was diagnosed I read a little about ADHD, I was given medication, then decided I didn't need that continued to struggle for years I could not see how this medical issue impacted my life those around me This book has been a huge eye opener What I really appreciate are the tools, strategies, resources offered This is not just a book that describes the symptoms, but offers impressive ways to live your life in a better way It talks about the shame you feel when you just don't measure up How hard you have to work to be preceived as normal What happens when you hit a wall, things start to fall apart Instead of beating yourself up for your issues, you begin to see how your struggles are a part of you, just like your strengths You learn to communicate with others about what your needs are ask for help in a non apologetic way You are finally able to celebrate all of who you are. This book was very helpful and totally nailed me I've known for years that I had something a bit like A.D.D but always assumed that my low energy levels proved that I didn't have a disorder often referred to interchangeably as hyperactivity I was surprised to learn that the sluggish feelings and the inability to put thoughts into action are actually a symptom of one kind of Attention Deficit Disorder.I read the original version, which is possibly the only reason I'm giving this 4stars instead of 5 If I can get my hands on a new copy, I may upgrade my review The book is occasionally very dated when it refers to sources of help The author mentions a CompuServe support group and not a single web site She also talks about email as a tool for getting work done while avoiding distractions like the telephone without acknowledging the distraction that the computer itself has now become (Does anyone else have close to 200 unread emails in their inbox?) And sadly the support group organization that she lists as a great place for inperson meetings disbanded in my city two years ago due to no joke the organizers being overwhelmed by keeping up with the work of running it.The original printing also has a comical amount of editing errors You know how you start to type one thing and change your mind midsentence and type something else and you think you've reworded the sentence to make sense, but in reality you've inadvertently left a stray word in the middle of the sentence that doesn't belong there? You'll find those sorts of errors throughout the first edition of the book, which is almost adorable when you know the author herself has Attention Deficit Disorder.What I appreciate most about this book is that it is genuinely filled with content and not fluff I've found that most selfhelp books are about a pamphlet's worth of good information padded out to book size through the use of large fonts, extra spacing, and a lot of meaningless blather This book really had a lot to say There were diagrams and case studies, but they didn't take over the book The author also does not pretend the solution is easy I might wish that the book ended with a promise that If you just do X, then you will be cured, but I respect that the author didn't try to sell a magic system that will make it all better.Personally, the biggest thing I got out of this book was the validation that the coping mechanisms that I had already figured out years ago even without a diagnosis really are necessary and feel better able to stand up to friends who helpfully point out that my coping mechanisms are unnecessary (If you just tried harder, you wouldn't need to do that.) I've always felt guilty about being a party pooper because I can't stand to be in a room with multiple conversations going on at the same time I also passively accepted a lot of the toxic help like the kind the author warns you about because I let people convince me that I deserved the condescending lecture about having made such a mess of things I've always felt guilty about wasting money on a professional service when I could have done it myself for free.If you think you might have A.D.D and have had trouble finding a source for the nonhyperactive version of it, I highly recommend this book (even if you can only get the outdated version). As I was reading this book I thought, Oh my gosh, my WHOLE LIFE makes sense now! No wonder I'm a disorganized librarianI have adult ADD! I'm being treated for ADD now with medicine and I can't believe what a difference it is making!